Are you finding yourself begging for thread from the One Who Shot You? Your Ex? Do you think he’s the one who wants to help you now that it’s over? I did. And I can see how crazy that instinct was now, but at the time I couldn’t see my way around it.
Think of it this way: If some stranger shoots you in a dark alley, do you ask the shooter to help remove the bullet from your heart? No! Of course not!
But that is exactly what we Leftat50’s are doing when we keep going back to the person who left us and asking them to patch us up!
Why do we do this? Mostly because we can’t believe that A) They shot us, and B) We don’t understand how they can just walk away and not care about us enough to want to help repair their damage.
Where is that person who used to be so concerned about my happiness? My welfare? My health? How did the person who cared for me become The Shooter? It’s just such a shock. Because we never thought it was possible.
Not us. Not me. Not possible. And then it happened.
And as you are healing, you are reeling.
From the pain, the betrayal, the disbelief.
That man, the one you giggled and goofed around with in your youth. The man you relied on, leaned on in the tough times.
That is why you are in the pain you are in. That is why you are allowed to be patient with your healing. Because you will heal from it.
As long as you remember to stop begging for threads.
I know how insane it feels that you keep doing just that. Give yourself a break. The realization of what has happened is creepy. It was for me. Really. Creepy. But it’s real.
As you heal, be aware that you don’t need any of those threads from him. You can find your own way and your wound will heal in a complete and healthy way because only you know how to do that.
No threads needed.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!