Gwen Stefani’s new hit song is called, “Used to Love You.” The song, and her excruciating video, done in one long take, reveal in no uncertain terms what she’s been through. All of us Leftat50’s understand every emotion that’s on her face. From the longing to the anger to the confusion to the toughness that she will make it through. It just goes to show you, that even if you are a beautiful, funny, successful rockstar/TV judge, men still cheat. It’s little consolation to Gwen, but perhaps it once again illustrates to all of us how we needn’t beat ourselves up. All of the seeming “negatives” we tried to pin on ourselves after being left simply do not tell the tale of what happened. It wasn’t our grey hairs, or poochie bellies, or varicose veins, or whatever overly critical view we took of ourselves that made that happen.
Why we felt we had to pin it on ourselves, I don’t know. There is evidence to the contrary in our personal experiences and those of so many others that men do not cheat on and leave us for younger women because we grew up and changed in appearance. Because, truth be told, we didn’t. Most of us look a million times better than our Exes do! So let’s throw that one out the window for good.
So go into the Critical Part of your Subconscious Mind, open the window, and let those thoughts out. Done! Now close the window. Maybe take some subconscious glass cleaner and get all the streaks off. How’s that for a New, Clear View of You?
Because, yes, you used to love him, but let’s remember the last part of Gwen’s song: “You know I was the best thing that ever happened to you, I thought you loved me more, oh, You know I was the best thing that ever happened to you, Now look at what you lost, oh.”
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!