When I was left at the age of fifty, I stood in my kitchen and looked out the window alot.
There’d been an upheaval of every aspect of my life. But even in my grief, I sensed that out in the world a new place was waiting for me. Unfortunately, I did not yet have the courage to go out there and take it.
Who the heck wants to take a new place in life at fifty? The fact that this situation was never in my plans left me sad and angry.
After months planted in that spot gazing through my kitchen window, I realized it was time to stop standing still. I had best get a move on or whatever my new life was wanting to be would pass me by.
It was time to unload the heaviness of a heartache that kept me rooted in a life that was over. My new reality was all up to me! It was a terrifying and awesome concept.
With an improved force of will I, I ran a comb through my hair and put on some gloss. Then I changed my mind and wiped it off, and stepped out. I ventured into fresh air, horn honks and airplanes carrying adventurous folks to new experiences. This was how I began the way forward. I have arrived at my place in the world. There have been many exciting experiences I never would have dreamed of.
“Stuck at the sink”? There is a new place in this world waiting for you. And you know it. Make a decision to get out there once and for all. It’s time to achieve those goals that have been waiting patiently to come to fruition.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!
I am not single, i am a married woman. I have been married for 8 years but I have been together with my husband for 14 years. But even tho I am married and not single I can still kinda relate to your story. As we go on about our married life I find myself sitting back and just being Jason’s wife (Jason is my husband’s name) I just became a wife and a mother. Don’t get me wrong I wouldn’t give up being a wife and a mother for anything in this world but i realized that I had given up the things I loved to do like, decorating houses, and fixing up old windows and making them look good again or even something as simple as getting a pedicure. All I was doing was making my family happy and doing what they needed me to do. Yes, I love to make my family happy. My husband works his butt off for 8 to 9 hours 5 days a week to support his family and the least I can do is have a hot mean and clean house for him when he gets home. I have 2 boys right now they are 18 and 12 my boys play all sports they love to be active and I love that about them. So if it took all my time away because I had to get them to their games or practice I did it with a smile on my face. But there was still something missing, i just felt like my pleasures and interests weren’t important. As time went on I started to notice I was lashing out on the people I love and I wasn’t taking care of myself anymore. I gained about 40 pounds and felt even worse about myself. One day I had a hour of free time (witch was rare!) So i said I’m just gonna sit and relax. Sitting there I was thinking why, why am I not happy? I am being a mother and a wife witch is what I always wanted to be since I was little. And it hit me! I put the things I enjoyed doing on hold and just took care of my family. I was their maid basically. Yes, I’ve always wanted to be a mother and wife and I love when my family is taken care of and happy. But doing those things is more of a satisfying feeling. It’s not the same as doing something that you enjoy doing. You no what I mean? Like when I would work on a old window I would put my headphones in and not think about the list of things I still had to do or bills, it was nice. So that next day I had a talk with my family and told them how I’ve been feeling and they all started crying. They never wanted me to put the stuff I love to do on hold. Now I make sure to do something for ME! And ever since then I now feel much better about myself and I want to put makeup on and do my hair. It’s crazy how something like that can really change you. If your not taking care of your own needs, doing things you enjoy and, only taking care of others, even tho you love them and, want to take care of them you will eventually feel invisible to others and just depressed. So ladies make time for yourself. If you have to start right now then do it and keep doing it. We all deserve to do things we love and to be happy along with our families. God bless.