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Sleeping In The Luscious Middle

A few years ago, still adjusting to my new life, I rarely made my bed. It’s weird. When I was part of a couple, it seemed so important to make the bed. And then once there was no one around to see it, I left it unmade. I didn’t care. There was just me in an entire Eastern King bed! I slept on my same side as I had when I was in a couple. Now I could move to the center and take up the entire darn bed and I didn’t take advantage of it!

This was not just a sleep lesson, it became a life lesson.

I can take up space. I deserve to take up as much real estate as I want. My bed is my castle and I am the queen of the remote, the glass of ice water on the nightstand, and the rumpled “O” magazine under it. This is my kingdom of fret-free slumber. 

The middle spot of the bed didn’t feel right in my mind. Until I actually experienced it. Scooting over from the edge, I felt myself deliciously sink ever so slightly into the realization that I could spread out. I could stretch my arms and legs as far apart as was comfortable. I could TAKE UP SPACE!

This is my new life. You know the expression, “You made your bed, now lay in it?” It’s supposed to be mean. But to me it is glorious. I’m happy to pull the sheets to the headboard and smooth out a few creases. Ecstatic to pile up wayyy too many fancy-looking pillows of all sizes on top of it with no man asking me, “Why do we need all those pillows we don’t use on top of the bed all the time?”

Because ladies love pillows dummy.

It’s been more than a few years since I considered it a “marital bed.” It’s now just mine. I try to keep it nice so I can try and get the eight hours and truly feel refreshed. And when I get up, I pull those covers over the bed and start my day. My new orderly day that starts with breakfast and ends with a little encouragement from my latest issue of “O”. And it’s nice. It’s nice because there’s no more drama. It’s nice because my bed no longer symbolizes heartache or rejection.

Does your bedroom feel like a place of comfort?

Not only for sleep but for new life ideas? Maybe it’s cause now I spread myself out as I drift off to sleep. Out of the confines of my old side of the bed.

I hope you are appreciating the bed you lay in. Cause the expression “You’ve made your bed, now lay in it,” doesn’t have to have a negative connotation. It can be a hopeful one. It can mean the end of restless nights and new days and of thinking you don’t deserve to take up an entire bed. Of course, you do! This is the hand Life has dealt you! A huge, comfy bed.

We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together! And check out my book, “Restarting Your Life When You Are. No Longer A Wife” I wrote it just for you!

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