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Re-finding Ourselves Post Divorce In Our Own Hearts

As years go by and our break-up is a crash in the rearview mirror, we turn our minds to the road ahead. The one we are creating for ourselves. As I have traveled there the past few years I have made a number of self-discoveries. I have come to name it “Re-finding Myself.”

What I mean is that certain aspects of my twenty-something single self have matured into a Confidence I never knew I had. Especially not back then. When I recall my 24-year-relationship, I try to focus on all of the self-discovery. Even after it has ended, that process continues.

For me, the Life Decision process involves a lot of research. Thank God for the Internet! When I am now deciding on what comes next I can look into it from several different angles. In doing so, I make myself aware of paths I never knew existed. After completing this process, I proceed with more confidence than I have ever had.

Do you know this to be true? I hope so.

If you are struggling with the day-to-day and finding the path to the years ahead, don’t be fearful. You are the one making the decisions and you know yourself better than anyone.

And if it has been years since your relationship ended I know for a fact that you are in a better place. Even if you don’t always see it that way.

In moments of confusion, I have learned to take some deep breaths. Then I go outside or to a church or some destination that gives me peace. I know you have that place. It might even be in your own heart. If so, go there, at least once a day if that’s possible.

Imagine a beautiful place you want to physically get to. A castle in Ireland, a botanic garden in Hawaii. An ancient cathedral in Rome. Realize that getting there is not an impossibility.

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My mother is now eighty-nine years old. She was married to a batterer and she let it keep her stuck and scared. She suffers from mental illness as might be expected. It’s sad but true that my own mother is my lesson in what not to do. Not in a mean or disrespectful way but in a thank God I live now and not back when she did way. Her religion told her to never get a divorce, so she didn’t.

Every woman’s life has challenges and still, we persevere. With all that’s going on in this world, it’s time to grab onto your dream and make it happen. Perhaps “Re-finding” yourself will refine your life into the one you’ve always known you deserved.

We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!

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