On this Labor Day, perhaps you are looking back on how you labored to keep your relationship viable. God knows, I labored 100s of ways, even though I knew all of these efforts were useless. At some point, there was that One Telling Thing that forced me to face It Was Over. For me, it was a shirt I bought for him. I know you can relate to the idea of “nudging” your Significant Other to dress a little better. My Ex had been wearing the same outdated clothes for years.
I saw a nice shirt on sale, so I bought it for him. I mentioned to him what I’d done and that the shirt was hanging in the closet. He just shrugged. No, “Oh can I see it?” No, “Thanks for doing that.” No-thing. Day after day, week after week, that new shirt hung untouched in the closet. It became a source of resentment for me. (One of many!) I realize now that his ignoring that shirt was a Major Sign that It Was Over. Those kinds of small, loving gestures meant nothing to him. And since he no longer loved me at all anymore, he was never going to so much as acknowledge that the Shirt even existed. Just like we were both ignoring the fact that the days of shared closets and loving gestures were over.
I encourage you to step away from the yearning you still may have to do these kinds of things. You know, things that make His Life easier. Him. The One Who Left You. Stop this. Now. You must learn to Labor for yourself and only yourself. You need to leave those memories in the rearview mirror. You need to take care of you, and realize you are worth any small Labor of Love you can do for yourself. This is the start of turning away from all of that. This Labor Day is about you living in The Now. This is the start of You acknowledging that You Are Worth A New Shirt, and So Much More. Then Love’s Labors are no longer lost, but a source of joy. The joy that you deserve as you start your New Life!!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!