Right after I was left, I was completely at a loss for words. I could not really articulate the devastation of the loss. Even to myself. I tried to figure out what could symbolize all the years I’d spent with my Ex.
For me, when I sat with it, the symbol I saw was 70,000 cords. Seventy-thousand cords that represented those 24 years that still bound him to me in my mind and gut and heart.
I decided the only way to free myself from being tethered to this now unshared past, was to start cutting those cords. I began to visualize myself cutting them with a huge garden clipper. Sometimes when I attempted to do this, I only cut 5 cords. Sometimes I cut 5,000.
I ask you, What is still keeping you tethered to your Ex in some way? What does that emotional bond look like for you? A kite? An Umbilical Cord? A tight rope? These are just a few examples that perhaps may help you as you take this important step of letting go.
This task did not get completed overnight for me. Not by a longshot. Actually, it took me years to truly feel I was free of all the “cords” that bound me to him.
Now I know some of you may still be connected to your Ex due to children and/or financial issues that are ongoing. But I’m talking about the Ties of The Heart. The Gut Connection that you really need to permanently free yourself from. Even if you despise him now, you may still find some of these ties deep within your soul. And if you do, I urge you to start cutting yourself free of them. Every. Single. One.
Only then can you move on to the Life of Joy that you know you are truly entitled to. Good Luck.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!