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What if I Don’t Wanna “Take the Bad with the Good?”

When you’ve been Leftat50 and your friends encourage you to “get out there” and when that is “Disaster Date” territory, they remind you to “Take the Good with the Bad.” That is really a tricky way of saying “Take the Bad With the Good.”

What if I Don’t Wanna?

What if I prefer to just find a man who is good?

Life is short and gets shorter every day, so I feel that I want to find a man whom I do not have to excuse “the bad” from.

What does that mean anyway? What is “the bad?” I have been cheated on and left to deal with every detail of his undoing of my life already. Isn’t that a “Bad” enough “Bad”?

I don’t want any more of the bad. Any kind of bad. Even what some might call “good/bad.” (Like that should even be a category!) I deserve 100% good.

How’s that for doing ALOT of work on yourself after the marriage implosion? I have hiked a million baby steps through unchartered territory to remake my life. This includes taking hard looks at bad habits, dealing with mood swings, wanting to isolate and feeling like no man would ever want me.

See? I said ALOT of work. Therefore, I feel totally justified in putting my flag in the ground and wanting a man who is just plain old good. Yes, that would be a great match for me. Do I dare put THAT on my next dating profile?

We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!


  1. Janet Janet

    Diane, I am so proud of you and all my Left at 50 sisters. My partner left me by dying after 27 years together. It has been a real struggle..dating site disasters, booty call guys, and a 1 year relationship where I was ” discarded” like I was no one! I am still rebuilding my life and love your insight and inspiration. Yes, I believe I am stronger, I believe in love and commitment, but only on my terms…keep the faith. We are wonderful, vital and beautiful, each in our own unique way.

    • Janet, I hope you are doing better, and still finding inspiration on the sight! I have incorporated humorous videos. Check them out.

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