Right after I was left, and many days since, I have caught myself being a “No!” it all. Do I want to come to this new thing that might be uncomfortable? No! Do I want to think about moving to this new place, trying this dating service, exercise class, hair style, food dropped at your door plan and all the rest? No-no-no! I don’t!😡
My Angry Inner Diane wants to scream, “I’ve been left! I’ve had to start my entire life over! How’s that for new? Adjust to being sick alone, well alone, grocery shopping alone, listening to other people’s problems with no one to bounce it off on alone and it’s kind of a lot, thank you.”
Do you feel that way too? That since you were left, everything that’s going on in every corner of your life is “kind of a lot?”
“Don’t you think the best thing you can do for yourself right now is nix it? Thumb it down? 👎Take a pass on that one?”
I get it. Really, I do. I don’t have the quick answer to this feeling. What I believe works is pushing yourself just-enough. It’s like when you want to get in better shape so you work out at a slightly higher level. You don’t overdo it to the point that you are laid up for weeks and never try it again. There is a gentle way of pushing yourself. A way that will still give you the moving-forward-in-life motion you crave, without the too-much-to-handle-at-this-time panic that totally shuts you down.
You were stuck in a bad marriage for years. That union has ended. Ladies, this is not the time to be keeping yourself stuck! That karate class 🙅you were invited to? Say you will come watch. That new place to try, beauty treatment, concert 🎸you’ve been thinking about, maybe one of those deserves a small yes.
Because you deserve a small yes. And you “know” it!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!