We all hear about the Elf on the Shelf each holiday season, but do you know the story behind it? It’s about an Elf who scouts out people’s homes so he can report their behavior back to Santa. Before the family wakes up each morning, the elf hides in a new spot in their house, so as not to be noticed.
I don’t know about you, but when it comes to my role in the last days of my relationship, I was definitely The Elf on the Shelf! Both to myself, and to my Ex.
Oh, I was steadfastly observing his behavior and my own, both good and bad, but I said nothing to him about it. I just sat there on my shelf. This is no way to live a life. Part of me was glad he stopped noticing me and the other wanted to scream, “I’m right here!”
He was no longer interested in where I was hiding. All of the games we had been playing inside our house stopped happening when he made his decision to actually go (to her).
The blame in this is not all his. There are things I could have done other than sit on the shelf. Fear can do strange things. Fear and heartache and uncertainty.
This Christmas, another reason we all can rejoice is because we are off the shelf!
We are in our own element, living through this holiday season with grace.
Celebrate the season as you observe the absence of yelling and tension in your life! Just as much, perhaps more than everybody else, we need a little Christmas, shelf free. Because we are not passive observers of life anymore. We are generous doers with busy holiday schedules.
While planning my holiday decorating at my new place, I realized it doesn’t have a single shelf in it. Truly a gift that will last us all year.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!