Are you writing your own bad press inside your head? Like there’s a constant news crawl at the bottom of your brain highlighting nothing but your faults? If so, I have this question/revelation for you:
Have you ever gone twenty-four hours without being self-critical?
I mean not one bad thought going through your mind regarding You. Only complimentary self-talk. I bring this up to you, because of my own revelation: I truly do not believe that in my adult life I have ever gone twenty-four hours without a negative thought about myself. Not on vacation, (“Why did I buy this suit?”) Not over the holidays, (“Don’t eat this or that or you’ll regret it”), not even all gussied up for someone’s wedding.
Wow. Just, wow.
Is this a woman thing? If so, why is this a woman thing? I realize for us Leftat50s, there is the added element of having been walked out on by the man you trusted the most.
That little thing.
I know for the first two years or so, my inner critic took up what seemed like permanent residence in my head. Like an evil step-mother waving her crooked finger at me. “What’s with the eye wrinkles?” The stomach pooch? Boy, you have really let yourself go. I thought you said you’d never do that?”
I’m sure you have your own cruel inner crone to add to the list.
I had to challenge myself, and now, I’m offering my challenge to all of you. Can you go twenty-four hours, just twenty-four little, teensy, 60-minute hours without throwing one single criticism at yourself?
Can you slam the door on what you perceive as your “bad parts” that you have to camouflage by wearing certain clothes, etc. Can you only focus on your many, many assets? Can you feel self-pride instead of self-judgment for just one day?
I swear, it’s a mindblower, a game-changer, and it sparked in me a realization of the many yucky things I do to myself.
So not helpful!
These thoughts are the opposite of Life-Changing.
Who needs that?
Give it a go. Start today or tomorrow, or whenever you want, but just try it!
Cause you are awesome. There, you see? I’ve already given you a start.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!