Today the news broke that Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck have split up after a ten year marriage. There is all this shock and awe about how they’d been living separate lives. This came as no shock to me, and I’m sure you felt the same. When a relationship is lovelessly coasting along, just because “it is,” there comes a time where it just kind of coasts to a stop. It’s not that abrupt for either partner because you both knew you were living on borrowed time and then the clock just strikes 12 for some reason.
That feeling of “It’s time” is both painful and a relief. You both need to stop living in Animosity Land and Move On. The “petering out” of something that began in such love and promise is just a part of life that us Left at 50’s understand. Not in a bitter way. Because we can now look back at the Bitter End and be grateful we walked down different paths for good. We were never a Same Path Couple, and obviously, neither were they. It has nothing to do with being famous or any of that. It has to do with people grow apart when one of them is selfish and doesn’t want to A) Grow Up and B) Contribute anything to the relationship. That is in fact, is not a relationship at all. And even though we were heartbroken when ours ended, it’s a happy morning every day when we don’t wake up in a web with someone that we feel stuck with.
We broke out of the web, or it was broken for us. But now we have found a new place for ourselves, where we can nurture and grow ourselves and not have to be up at three in the morning, wondering where someone is, and then wake up to that awful, silent treatment morning.
So congrats to Jennifer. Onward and upward!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!