December 31, besides being New Year’s Eve🎉, is also unofficially “Make Up Your Mind Day.” In many ways, I feel the unofficial moniker for 12/31 is the one that deserves the most observance. Because it entails making a choice. A choice that once made, will lead us onto a course of action that will linger throughout 2017.
I wish I would have known about this years ago! After I was left, I despised New Year’s Eve with a vengeance. I refused to go out to “celebrate.” I was a woman scorned and had no idea what my future would be.😳Why on Earth would I want to celebrate such a thing?
“I was going to soak in the tub of bitterness over my Ex’s infidelity and disrespect forever.”
I considered New Year’s Eve “365 Days of Uncertainty.” It was dreadful.
That was how I chose to greet the year ahead. With soul-shaking, thoughts-racing dread. And when I did have some flicker of an idea, I would immediately tell myself, “There’s no way I can do that.”
Old Acquaintance Be Forgot? No way! I was going to soak in the tub of bitterness over my Ex’s infidelity and disrespect forever. That was the way to go!
I did this for years. In bed by 10 or so. Just get past it.
I was hurting no one but myself of course. My lonely, non-socializing self. While other people were acting normal and doing what normal people do on 12/31, I was in my Diane Dysfunction. There were no parades or midnight kisses for me.
Until I made up my mind to stop doing that to myself. Until I made up my mind to think of goals. To make plans. Real ones. Ones I committed to for my own sake.
So I made up my mind to send the “What’re ya doing New Year’s Eve?” email. And I sent it to a lot of people. And what do you know, I found myself at a fantastic party with interesting, lovely people, a roaring fire,🔥and gourmet appetizers!
All because I made up my mind to do something different. Something that to me was daring. I was sweating through my dress when I walked through that door. That’s the truth. I thought I didn’t know how to be social alone.
I was wrong.
These people had never met me before, so I didn’t have to be the “Now Alone Forever” Diane. I was Writer Diane, Pet Lover Diane and Diane That Had Traveled the World! I was Mid-Century Furniture Expert Diane! Gardener Diane! And I came home that New Year’s Eve on a real high.
If New Year’s Day is making you feel down, then celebrate Make Up Your Mind Day today! On whatever questions and doubts that are holding you back! I guarantee if you do, you will have a very happy new year!🎊
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!