When I was seriously considering the end of the relationship and moving on myself even before I was left, I was met by a wall of doubt coming from the people I thought I could trust the most but who had now become The Naysayers: My family and my best girlfriends. “Are you sure you want to do this?” “How will you live? Make a living? etc. To say this kept me frozen in fear was an understatement. And looking back now, it makes me furious. Why would those who were supposed to care about me the most want me to stay in a miserable relationship?
The obvious reason is that they were not inside the relationship, so they thought I was exaggerating. I mean who could imagine the loveless misery we were living in unless they had experienced it themselves?
Their lack of confidence in my ability to go it alone really did a number on my head. Add in the fact that since they had no confidence in me, I felt doubly trapped in that I could not truly confide in them about the nightmare scenario that was playing out. Talk about feeling lonely and abandoned. What a mess!
I’m so proud that I didn’t let the Naysayers win! I had enough belief in myself, even at my weakest point, to know that I could make it in this world just fine after he walked out and the door closed. And that’s exactly what I’ve done. Did I start out on wobbly legs and have to find my footing? Yes! Did I make some weird choices and mistakes in the remaking me of me? Yes and so what?! No woman has all the answers on remaking her life at 50 come to her in some sort of flash. It’s a day by day adjustment, followed by a day-by day revelation.
I said “no” to the Naysayers and Yes to Myself! You can too! Close your ears to the doubters and listen to your heart.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!