After you and your Ex are kaput, there is sometimes a kind of telepathic communication that you have with him and his woes. This happened to me and lasted for about two years. What I mean is, you’ll just be going about your day and a random thought will come into your mind. For me, I had a “flash” that he had been driving drunk and crashed his car and was in trouble. And I actually saw him a few days later and he was walking to work with his briefcase in tow. He said he “needed the exercise” but I knew better. How I “knew” that with no one telling me just goes to show the level of connection that must be severed. The connection with your Ex and his Woes.
Because part of spending a life with someone is worrying about their welfare. And amazingly, even after I’d been cheated on and left, I still had that intuition with him. And God knows I didn’t want it. If you are feeling some of this, I just want to reassure you that it does go away in time. But, it TAKES PRACTICE.
If you have been in a long term relationship with someone for basically your entire adult life the way I was, it’s just a muscle that you were exercising constantly and didn’t know it. I had to teach myself tricks to not go there anymore. To drop that weight. No more fretting about the one who broke my heart and destroyed our life together. He had the new life he claimed he wanted now. The life without me in it. It is not for me to care if it’s a happy or a sad life. Those days are over.
My life today though far from perfect, is so much happier. I wake up feeling that a day of possibilities is stretched out before me. Gone are the dark days. I realize now those ended the day he walked out on me.
How grateful I am that I plan out my days and take the actions that move my life forward! That I am a mature, responsible woman who can take care of herself, fill her needs and most importantly have FUN! I went for years without having fun. Even though I had to push myself at the beginning to go see a play, or go to a museum with someone, it has now just become my life. A life of my own. With no more worries about my ex and his woes.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!