Blurred Lives. That is what I was living with my Ex before we finally parted for good. There was no way for me to define, even in my Own Mind, what the heck we’d become!
We were not Friends. We were certainly not Lovers. I didn’t truly Hate Him as an Enemy. We were living as Strangers, yet we Knew Each Other. Or we had Known Each Other. Is that a term? “Knew Each Other’s?”
Looking back now, that entire period seems so strange. The fact that two grown adults just existed in the same house. Day after day. Week after week. Blurred Lives. And it got worse and worse, right?
The Silence. The Weird Looks instead of Words. Passing him uncomfortably in the kitchen. Then watching him take his food to another room and eat it. (God forbid we’d sit at the same table!) Blurred Lives.
I don’t know why it took so much time to stop this sad-silly life. But, it just took what it took. Maybe it was fear of change. Splitting up and Moving on after decades together is a Big Deal. And in our case, it was quite obviously a necessary one. Why did we draw it out?
Our Blurred Life. I have to let that go now. But if you are still in this type of relationship, I urge you to be the Courageous One and Take Action. Say Something at least. I know moving out/on is emotionally and financially taxing. Be brave. Don’t let those excuses keep you from moving on. From ending it once and for all. You need to do this. So do it. Not later. Now.
Moving forward is essential. Being stuck in this is really going to get you. Your mental and physical health will start to suffer. Believe me. This is not a small thing. So please, for your own happiness, get out of it now. And know you are not alone. And that it is going to be okay. More than okay. Because once you do, your Blurred Life will come Into Focus.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!