“Sometimes you don’t get closure, You just move on.” – Karen Salmansohn @notsalmon.com
I felt so much better about The Breakup Aftermath when I read this quote. I sat with it for a few minutes and really took it in. I realized that my not getting closure about being left, has been a constant source of agitation for me for a long time now. Because not getting to put the period on the end of the sentence that was a relationship of 24 years seemed incredibly unfair. I. Was. Left. The. End. That’s the story I get to live with? Don’t I deserve, A) An Explanation! B) An Apology For the Betrayal! C) Some kind of constant compassion from those closest to me? The answer, is “No.” To all of the above. “No.” I didn’t get those things right after being left and I won’t get them ever.
What I know now is that I HAVE TO FIND MY OWN CLOSURE. That is the only way to truly move on in my life. I not only have to find the closure, I have to CHOOSE TO FIND THE CLOSURE. This kind of concept seemed so unfair at first that it left me kicking and screaming into my New Life. Not probably, in hindsight, the best way to go.
So, for all of you Leftat50’s who feel the anger, the discontent, the confusion when you realize this, I can only say you must pick up the pencil and end your “sentence” once and for all. If not, you can never truly achieve the happiness you so deserve and seek. Put the lid on it. Don’t look back in the trash can. Just Move On.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!