I keep hearing this awesome female empowerment song on the radio, by a woman named Rachel Platten. “This is my fight song, Take back my life song, Prove I’m alright song, My power’s turned on, Starting right now I’ll be strong, I’ll play my fight song.”
When I was newly left, and trying to figure out my future path and all of the other “New Life” decisions, I had to make, I sure could’ve used a song like this one. Because I really didn’t know if I was “alright”. I had to fake it. It was how I kept going through all the packing and unpacking, the signing of documents, the throwing things away. All of those things that represented the Relationship That No Longer Was. Some days I felt empowered. Others, incredible weak. I mean “wobbly-legs” weak. I had to sit down, or leave the house, and get away from it.
But I can see now that what I thought of as the Dark Days, were really just the Transition Days. The transition to a new, happy life that I was now able to live because the awfulness I’d been putting up with was no longer at the forefront of every, waking hour. Poof! It was gone. It had to be. I had too much to figure out now and too much to choose from. Yes, it’s stressful so I recommend something that helped me.
You know how you made a “marriage vow”? That thing that he broke? Well, let that go and make a Vow to Yourself now. I mean write it down. What do you vow to do for your life now? What is sacred to you now? I don’t mean general things like “happiness.” I mean, WHAT, SPECIFICALLY, would make you HAPPY. It could be something that would bring you happiness in the next five minutes, like a delicious snack, or something that would make you happy tomorrow or next week or next year.
Because you have your Fight Song now. So take back your life. And remember, even on the tough days, you’re gonna be alright. Because the power’s been turned on!!!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!