When you began this journey, after being left, you were (or are, if it just happened) probably pretty scared about your future.  What will become of you now?  Well, wait a minute.  When you got married, or in some way committed to your Ex, did you worry about the future?  Did you think it wouldn’t work out and he’d cheat on you and leave you for a younger woman?  Did you think there’d be fights and cross words, or that deadening silence of no-longer-caring?  No.  Of. Course. Not.

Now that you are on your own, instead of being Filled With Doom, you should be Filled With Joy.

YOU are the Amazing Woman in Control of Your Own Future!  You don’t have to “run things” by anybody.

No fights about money, or little petty things that piled up into huge raging big deals.  How exhausting and petty that all seems now.  Thank God it is behind you.  You don’t deserve to live like that anymore.  You know your own value.  And you know a few things about your future.  You know you won’t be settling for less than you deserve as far as anything is concerned.  Not just relationships, but jobs, or friendships that don’t serve you anymore.   Relatives who’ve always gotten under your skin.  Who needs ’em?  These people don’t have to be in your life anymore if you don’t want them to be.

You CAN look for a new job if you hate the one you have now.  You don’t have to run it by anybody!!!

I know it’s stressful that your future is unknown.  But I do SINCERELY congratulate you anyway.  Because you are not in a loveless marriage, where every grey day bleeds into the next.  Start thinking of your life as your own now. Your FUTURE is your own.  This is a blessing that maybe you can’t see right now if you are still in a grieving place.  I know.  I’ve been there. And some days I do slip back into sad memories.  But at least those feelings are of my own choosing, and not because the man I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with said or did something horrible to me today.

I’ll take the fear of Future Unknown, to have lived through today, with Calm, and Peace and Quiet, and a New Respect for myself.  These are things I cherish, even though I don’t know what the future will hold.  Hope this helps.  Let me know.

We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!