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The Bachelor Break-Off: Better Now Than Three Decades Later

The stunning episode of The Bachelor that has tongues wagging everywhere involves the break-up of Arie Luyendyk, Jr. and Becca Kufrin, the couple who were supposed to be the ones getting engaged. The fallout is all over the internet airwaves, yet as a woman who was walked out on around the age of fifty, I have a less-painful perspective.

Yes, there will be tears and heartache, made worse by the fact that strangers were witnessing Becca’s life fall apart. Of course the cynics are saying now they have the perfect Bachelorette for the next cycle of the show.

Even so, none of us Leftat50’s would want to be wearing Becca’s shoes this week. Her glass slipper has broken into a million pieces.

But better now than later. That’s our perspective. Though there are similarities to how many of us were quit on, we are thinking she is young enough to go on with her life and find “The Right One.”

Well Ladies, as the Pink song goes, “What About Us?” We are at a different life stage and though we were broken up with after long marriages by a painful betrayal, here we are. Comfy on our new couches in our new places with our low sodium popcorn in a bowl on our laps, watching Becca’s misery.

Our lives and possible future relationships are not so daunting these days. Because we are mature, we are the ones making the choice whether to be in a relationship or not. And that is our blessing.

Have you ever looked at your new found Singledom in that way? Perhaps you should begin today. There is nothing wrong with fuzzy slippers and popcorn. And there is nothing wrong with signing onto some dating website “just to see.” We know the decisions We Are Making in Life. Life is not Making Decisions for Us!

Just like Becca, our rings are off. So are the gloves. Have at it, Ladies!

We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!


  1. Janet O'Neill Janet O'Neill

    He was right to call it off now, he made a mistake. Keeping up the ruse would have been much, much worse. “Reality” tv just got real, people make painful decisions, hearts get broken, life goes on. My recent breakup after a year long relationship has given me some perspective. I thought everything was “fine”, apparently he did not. I am glad now that he called it off when he did. Yes, it hurt, but it also opened my eyes. I am seeing someone new, and had he not broken it off, I would never have been open to this new relationship. We love, we learn, we cry and we grow…life goes on. I am happy and feel I am in a ” healthier” relationship with a wonderful man because we both choose to be together.

    • Glad everything has worked out for you! Sounds like you found the perfect fit. The breakup was a blessing in disguise. Happy to hear you are in a healthier place!

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