A Break up with a man is really a break up with your phone. At first, being left is like the “quitting coffee” headache. It hurts excruciatingly. Head and heart pounding from the sudden withdrawal, makes us think we need contact him. Just one short text and all the hurt will abate for a little while.
Do not reach for that phone. When you head to bed, leave it in another room. This way you will not be tempted to make an unfortunate late night text that has you waking up horrified.
The truth in this day and age is, the cellphone can make you do things you really wish you hadn’t.
Listen to this advice and follow it: He breaks up with you, you break up with your cellphone. Remember how I mentioned the head and the heart a few sentences ago? Well, it is obvious that every time you look at your phone and he has not responded back to you, your body goes into overdrive. Thoughts race, sadness abounds and overwhelming anger envelops you. These feelings can lead you to the phone…
During the first few weeks of a breakup, it is strongly recommended, (By ME) that you stop carrying your phone. Because in my experience, that phone represents the emotional tie to your Ex. If you keep checking it and feeling disappointed, you are constantly multiplying the pain. It’s like what they do to lab rats. Ring a bell, give them cheese. Except in this example, there is no cheese.
I have developed a theory that when a person is left by another, their phone actually becomes the substitute for the person. That is why we find ourselves literally sleeping with our phones!
In our confused and shocked states, the phone is some kind of lifeline back to the days when he called or texted us constantly. But there are not going to be any more texts. No sexual innuendos, no romantic emojis. The more the phone is checked, the more it hurts all over again. Remember how I mentioned the bell and the cheese a few sentences ago?
Stop hurting yourself on a “cellular level!”
Break up with your phone. Kick it to the curb! Once you do, the “disconnect” will cause you less stress. The habit of looking for texts that are never coming will start to make no sense at all.
Until one day you are out by yourself. You pass a cute cafe and decide to order the fancy, overpriced cheese plate and you realize you haven’t checked your phone for hours. You reach down and turn it off, smile at the waiter, and take a big bite of life.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!